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The Krug comparison makes sense. Not sure where they'll find another $1.5M, unless they replace Kerfoot with Robertson or something like that.

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Non-Hockey Chatter / Re: Depression and Anxiety
« on: Today at 10:16:47 AM »
Does anyone if you can get help for ADHD without extended coverage. My psychiatrist keeps telling me it’s unnecessary to speak to someone else who specializes in ADHD and he just keeps prescribing me Adderal and a different depression med every 6 or 8 months. But no help on actually overcoming or controlling the ADHD. He keeps
Saying your productive enough let’s focus on the depression. I feel trapped.

Have you asked to be referred to a therapist? My good friend sees a therapist every month and it's been helpful. She has other issues as well (complex PTSD), so maybe that's why?

My friend who has pretty severe ADHD, highly recommends the ADHD Rewired course and group coaching. It's $1500 though. She says the support and understanding from the community is the best part (which is free I believe). Also highly recommends reading "The One Thing" which is actually required reading for the course.

I saw a therapist for a year and have been discharged. Now trying to get back in is almost impossible. You essentially have to claim you're suicidal to get in.

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Non-Hockey Chatter / Re: Depression and Anxiety
« on: Yesterday at 02:22:10 PM »
Hey, thanks for that, LK, I'll check those out. I'm currently reading The Healthy Compulsive by Gary Trosclair, who's supposed to be some guru, but I'm finding it's too focused on the driven part of the personality. OCPD is interesting because it's apparently quite common (something like 5-10% of the population), but resources are fairly scant.

Perfectionism and self-criticism are a couple of my major issues. I'm assuming from childhood trauma, but of course, I've been discharged from therapy, so who knows?

To be diagnosed with OCPD, you only have to have 4 of the 8 diagnostic criteria, so it can be quite variable.

I've found this guy's video (this one in particular) to be by far the most helpful. So if anyone wants to learn about OCPD or suspect you might have it, take a listen:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OEhin2dCh8U


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Non-Hockey Chatter / Re: Depression and Anxiety
« on: Yesterday at 12:04:37 AM »
So I'm of the opinion that our Canadian/Ontarian health system sucks when it comes to mental health.

I'm on anti-depressants, which are generally working. Last year I was referred to a psychiatrist after I talked to my physician about concerns I might have ADHD. He generally dismissed my concerns because "I didn't fidget enough and was far too calm throughout." He focused only on my depression.

In general, I was ok with that. I'm not/wasn't searching for diagnosis or labels, but a better understanding of my issues. Despite having two very informed friends with ADHD that are convinced I have it, I accepted his finding. I then started researching and talking to others and have become somewhat convinced that I have OCPD (different from OCD.) I then asked my physician to get me another referral to the psychiatrist and the organization rejected me, saying "I've been assessed already."

Really, that's it? It was a 45 minutes consultation with a complete stranger. Imagine if you went in to a doctor and said "hey, I have severe pains in my arm, I think it's broken." They look at it and then say "nope, not broken, have a good day." Off you go.....  It'd be ridiculous and unethical, in my view.

So, I got angry and request my medical records. The psych report states: "diagnosis: major depressive disorder with anxious tendencies..........likely OCPD, shows several traits." He never f'ng mentioned this to me. I had to figure it out on my own, yet it was in my records all along. So I call the medical facility where I got the psych evaluation and previously had therapy (the only publically-funded facility where I am), and they basically say, "well, we've already assessed you and don't do 2nd opinions or assessments. You can go to a private facility if you want." A proper assessment for disorders is into the thousands of dollars. We definitely have a two-tier system here and it's not right.

So, because I'm not wealthy, I get to suffer. I don't get any help to learn how to deal with my issues. This sucks.

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General NHL News & Views / Re: 2020-2021 NHL Thread
« on: August 01, 2021, 11:35:43 PM »
I wish I could just shift a 1/4 million, just to properly submit paperwork.

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Main Leafs Hockey Talk / Re: 2021 NHL Entry Draft
« on: August 01, 2021, 11:18:59 PM »
Not malicious? Turn it up. This is a sex offense.

I used the term malicious in its literal meaning: intent to act with malice or to harm. I don't think that was his intent.

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Main Leafs Hockey Talk / Re: 2021 NHL Entry Draft
« on: August 01, 2021, 11:16:43 PM »
Firstly, I have to say that I did have one important fact incorrect: I thought the photo was consensual. I re-read the articles and now understand the photo itself was taken secretly. That does change my opinion somewhat.

2ndly, you're essentially getting what I'm saying correct.

Part of our difference is that I do think the "sex offender" label does carry that implication of a very serious crime. It does to me at least. I'm not disagreeing with those that do call it a sex crime, though there are obviously degrees to everything.

If people are equating this to a "9", then yes, I would be downplaying it because to see it like that would be "up-playing" it as it were. But that view probably ties into my point from above about the label.

For the record, I also generally agree with what Laroque says. Perhaps ignorance on my part (I don't read twitter or much sports media at all), but I haven't seen Mailloux try to reverse the victim as he states it. He's confessed; he asked to not be drafted. I would imagine if there are people trying to minimize it, it would be his agent or other media sympathizers. I suppose I see the part of Mailloux saying that he was "just trying to impress the guys" less as him trying to reverse the victim (has he denied the young woman is the real victim?) and more of him admitting that he's a foolish, careless, young man. While I agree this is emblematic of hockey culture (though this isn't unique to hockey), it's also emblematic of young, immature men in general. While I'm certainly not an expert, it's well established that the prefrontal cortex in teenagers is still developing and this contributes to bad decision making due to a lack of appreciation for consequences and impact on others.

There's a lot of angles to this story: the victim's trauma, the players' actions/remorse/culpability, the media's reaction, toxic masculinity and sports culture, the seriousness of the crime, legal issues (e.g. Canadian vs. Swedish laws), the Canadiens' terrible decision and PR mess, etc.

One other angle: can we feel bad for the player while also respecting the victim? I say yes. I understand and respect that many will feel "no".

Lastly, thank you again for your thoughtful response and for challenging me. I'm comfortable with that. I embrace it. I don't take hard lines in these types of topics. I try to learn and to grow. I've made mistakes in the past (not to the level of Mailloux's) and I've learned from them. I try to be as flexible and objective as possible in my thinking. So, if I learn new facts or hear persuasive arguments, I'll change my opinion...even if it's uncomfortable.

...anyway, getting off-topic.

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Main Leafs Hockey Talk / Re: 2021 NHL Entry Draft
« on: August 01, 2021, 07:10:41 PM »
He asked not to be drafted; Montreal didn't respect that.  If his request was genuine, could he not now simply issue a statement saying he refuses Montreal's action and will not participate with them in any way?  Sure, this leaves a bunch of league-ish questions about whether Montreal holds on to his rights until such time as he wants to make himself available (or whether, in so doing, he forfeits the opportunity to be drafted into this league at all), but if he really meant what he said, he ought to try to do something to actually make it come about.

Ya, I agree. I have no problem with him being drafted....eventually. Drafting him after he specifically asked not to, that's just bad taste.

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Main Leafs Hockey Talk / Re: 2021 NHL Entry Draft
« on: August 01, 2021, 07:09:07 PM »
Thanks for the response, Nik. I appreciate your take on it.

My only real issue with "sex offender" as used in the media is the implication his crime is on a level of a rapist or someone who's committed sexual assault. Her suffering will be real, I'm not trying to downplay that all, but he's a young man who's committed a non-violent crime.

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Main Leafs Hockey Talk / Re: 2021 NHL Entry Draft
« on: August 01, 2021, 11:41:03 AM »
Perhaps I don't know all the facts, but are people actually attacking the victim as Laraque claims? i.e. are people (e.g. the Canadiens or Mailloux) claiming that she shouldn't have put herself in that situation? That she should have known better? I understand that there will be jackasses saying that, but I haven't heard the PR team or others doing that or encouraging it.

Secondly, has he been convicted of a crime? (and yes, of course, I'm siding with and believing the victim.) But I'm just asking, factually, is he a sex offender? Speaking of which, while I am not in any way downplaying the seriousness of what he's done, I think we do need to put things in context. He didn't sexually assault or rape anyone. He was either 17 or 18 and likely didn't think of the consequences of what he did. He's harmed this young woman, but is there not a chance for redemption while still respecting the victim?

Non-consensually sharing private photos is often done as "revenge porn." That is, to harm someone, to extort them, and so on. It sounds like he just shared them with his buddies; like he was showing off. Still, a terrible (and illegal) thing to do, but not a malicious act. But again, I don't know all the facts.

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...* Kase, Ho-Sang are questionmarky for health and prove-it reasons. Engvall and Mikheyev can swap in if those two don't work out and push other options around. Engvall can spell Spezza for the odd game or two vs Buffalo; Anderson and Simmonds can flip in and out. Rotate the bottom-pair defense around. Liljegren could be Brennan Mennell instead, whatever.

I'm not sure if your faith in Ho-Sang is admirable or sad.

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General NHL News & Views / Re: 2020-2021 NHL Thread
« on: July 28, 2021, 03:37:13 PM »
Ok cool thx. I was in an argument with my brother in law about it and he was saying it comes into effect immediately and that seemed wrong to me.

They're not really extensions. They're really just new contracts that come into effect when the current contract ends.

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Just one little thing I ask: no more crazy diving out to the faceoff dot to chase loose pucks.

It is entertaining though.  ;D

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Happy Michael Bunting Day everyone.

Yep, will be a good signing by Ryan Hardy.

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Leafs Rumours & Speculation / Re: Armchair GM 2021-2022: Catharsis
« on: July 28, 2021, 08:48:11 AM »
Pysyk might be a decent depth signing that would come cheap.

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