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Re: Depression and Anxiety
« Reply #330 on: November 30, 2017, 03:10:31 PM »
Hugs to everyone dealing with this. It's a struggle and one I don't wish on anybody.

My daughter was diagnosed with generalized anxiety at 15. She got in to see a child psychiatrist so fast due to her age. Even when she turned 18, her Dr kept her on until she started university that fall, just to make sure she was doing well. Unfortunately, after that, she had to just go through her family Dr and get a referral for another psychiatrist now that she's an adult.

Thankfully, her child psychiatrist had set her up so well and with all the support she had through her CYW in high school, now at Uni and the support from myself, hubby and her siblings - she's been able to continue on with no ill effects. It's really scary in the beginning, but it does take time.


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« Reply #331 on: November 30, 2017, 05:29:45 PM »
This is a great thread. I haven't posted much in recent years but I've been reading regularly since penaltybox.com (used to be Renburger) and the outlet and support I see here reminds of me all the best things about TMLFans (still think about you Sakura, Mr T and cw). Best wishes to all who have recently posted, I have struggled with depression at times and have found that the more you do the right things to control it (seeking and accepting help are high on the list) the easier it tends to get.

I'm far from a psychiatrist, but I personally found that things got easier once I forgave myself for being depressed (my depressed mind considered itself to be weak) in the first place. There is no shame in a broken arm and there is no shame in depression or anxiety. Both can usually be fixed with the help of medicine and/or healthy rehabilitation.

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« Reply #333 on: February 23, 2018, 07:53:39 PM »
For those of you who suffer from this I do truly commiserate, if you go through the pain of every day Depression long term I can only imagine the strength it takes to keep living day by day.

It is said that all men consider suicide at least 3 times over a lifetime and I think that is about right, as I know I have.  For most of you I am a Monkey (the Joker) on this site, as I am by birth on the Chinese calendar. 
The truth is I recently went through my worst bout with Depression in my life (with a capital D as it deserves this), and it lasted for 8 months and some days are still bad.  I found out about a heart issue, not likely to kill me anytime soon but enough to rock the boat, and then two hurricanes wiped out my territories and a year of hard earned income.  I spent a long time in the bottom of the rocking vessel for sure, looking for the light at the end of the tunnel.

For those of your with clinical Depression, I can only imagine what hardships you have.
For me I had to make a living and have been forced to become creative and entrepreneurial to survive, I found a few things to promote and have worked hard to keep providing for my family and to ensure a positive old age.
I am not sure I will ever stop working, but have met with some success in these endeavors, the darkness and fog is lifting.
For those of you that remain trapped in this state, I quote Sir Winston, you can "Never never Surrender" you must never give up.
Life is to precious and happens only once (as we know it). We have so much love to share and we must share it.
Sorry if this sound silly but I have to say this now, and I consider all of you my brothers and sisters on this site. (even Nik)
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« Reply #334 on: February 23, 2018, 10:47:51 PM »
Thank you for sharing, Highlander. It couldnít have been easy to go through all that and be vulnerable enough to share it here.

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« Reply #335 on: February 24, 2018, 09:00:03 AM »
I echo herman's statement. I hope things keep looking up for you.

I've been on quite a journey the last year. I've always had depression (since my mid-teens at least), but it's usually been manageable. Back in May and June I had some really rough times that motivated me to finally get treatment.

There is an open counselling centre, so I went there, but I'm not eligible for free treatment. Since I can't afford private counselling, I searched for other options.

I saw my new physician and explained my troubles. She was really good, but there's no mental health professionals in my health network. So, she referred me to a publicly-funded mental health out-patient centre. From the referral date, it took five months for first contact with this centre, which was for a welcome workshop. This workshop is a group presentation on what mental health is, treatment options, confidentiality, other community resources, etc. After that it took two more months to see a decision-guide. This guide discussions the issues and treatment options, and then recommends a type of treatment. I've now been referred to a psycho-therapist for CBT. Estimated time to first appointment is 4-5 months.

I love living in Canada and I generally have faith in our health care system. But, access to mental health services is absolutely a national embarrassment. There are resources for crises, which is good, but someone in chronic pain (and this is exactly what depression is) has to wait for far too long for treatment.

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« Reply #336 on: February 24, 2018, 11:19:59 AM »
Thanks for letting me know that Bullfrog. Most of us suffer our bouts of depression silently only sharing with spouse or very close friends, if at all.
I didn't know this about our health care system and it very concerning to find out that you can get a carbuncle on you butt treated way faster than a problem with depression.  Things have to change.
I do feel fortunate as my depressions have always been like dark clouds that eventually blow over even though the bad weather can last a long time, it has always dissipated thank God.
For people like Bullfrog, my heart goes out to you all.
Life is so precious to lose any time to this illness is a gigantic waste.
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« Reply #337 on: February 24, 2018, 01:45:09 PM »
Glad to hear youíre on the rebound Highlander, all our sparring on here aside I really value the light hearted silliness you bring to the site and wish you all the health and happiness in the world.

Bullfrog, glad to hear youíre improving/seeking out treatment too. Iíve struggled with depression on and off too since I was a teenager, to the point of being suicidal many times. One of the things that gets me out of it is adherence to the things I learned when going through CBT.

Lastly, Iíve accepted that depression will be with me most of my life, itíll always be in my car so to speak, the key is to never let it drive the car.

Love to you all, cheers.

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« Reply #338 on: February 24, 2018, 07:09:58 PM »
Thanks  WIGWL,  most appreciated.  The funny thing is moving forward with these new projects, some doors seem to be magically opening.  It is certainly encouraging when a few months back I didn't see the light.  You just can't give up. 
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Re: Depression and Anxiety
« Reply #339 on: February 28, 2018, 01:56:47 PM »
I don't know how available this will be to most people, but the company I work for just signed up with workhealthlife.com, an Employee and Family Assistance Program (EFAP). At no cost to the employee (and pretty nominal for the employer), they and their dependents get app level access to resources and direct communication with medical professionals for just about anything health, stress, anxiety, nutrition, legal advice, addiction -related.

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« Reply #340 on: February 28, 2018, 04:29:58 PM »
I don't know how available this will be to most people, but the company I work for just signed up with workhealthlife.com, an Employee and Family Assistance Program (EFAP). At no cost to the employee (and pretty nominal for the employer), they and their dependents get app level access to resources and direct communication with medical professionals for just about anything health, stress, anxiety, nutrition, legal advice, addiction -related.
Herman you actually work for a living, I thought you were hard wired to TML and The Athletic?   ;)
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Re: Depression and Anxiety
« Reply #341 on: June 10, 2018, 01:03:15 PM »
Very sad to see Antony Bourdain commit suicide, last guy on the planet I thought would do it. Again how much do we know anyone?
Must say I absolutely loved his show, his books and actually crossed paths with him once.  :'(
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Re: Depression and Anxiety
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